Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Purchased: 12/25-1/1

I took full advantage of some extra holiday $ and a few different sales during a holiday visit to NYC.

james perse t-shirt (similar to the overdyed heathered tee; via Marshall's)

Thank you, Mom, for the gift card!

My old headphones bit the dust and these look pretty cool, plus they're made with an eco-friendly aluminum housing and have 100% recyclable cords.

My current phone case doesn't come over the edge of the screen, which has resulted in two cracked screens (an expensive fix). Hopefully this will be a sturdier solution, and the fact that it won't take up space in a landfill is also exciting.

Monday, January 2, 2012

New Year, Continued Intention

This year's resolution (I know, I'm forever the optimist) is fairly simple, and something that I'm continuing from the previous year: live life with intention.

I've tried to be more mindful with what I eat and purchase and how I spend my time, but I still have a long way to go. My resolution may be big (and a bit unwieldy), but I've broken it down into a few (read: 21) goals to make it more manageable.

Though I may talk about more of these later, one of my goals is to buy only items I truly love. Relatedly, another, inspired by Joslyn of Operation Simplicity, is to end the year with fewer belongings than I started.

To keep myself accountable, I'll be periodically posting purchases I've made, as well as when I donate/gift/toss items. Here's to a more intentional 2012!

Monday, December 12, 2011

Music Monday: Christmas Wrapping

One of my favorite holiday songs plus a ridiculous light display? I'm sold.

K and I had a date night this past weekend that included driving around to look at Christmas lights and then stuffing our faces with cupcakes. I'm still upset we didn't see anything even close to this. C'mon, Chapel Hill!

Sunday, December 11, 2011

Pretty in Pink

Oh, hello there! Since we last chatted I've gotten married, taken a fantastic honeymoon in Vermont, released a major project at work, enjoyed life as newlyweds, traveled to Seattle for Thanksgiving, and done a lot of cooking, baking, and nesting.

One thing I've tried to cut back on? Shopping. At least on clothing for myself (though we're working on being more frugal overall). However, when I literally gasped in delight when I spotted these pretty little shoes at the Target (ask my friend P for corroboration), I knew I had to bring them home. I've loved this style of loafers this season, but have only seen them in leopard print. While I love me some leopard, I've maxed out my quota in the shoe department (the two pairs I already have seems a bit excessive), so pink, my favorite color, are the perfect alternative. While they aren't quite broken in just yet, they make me smile every time I put them on. I'd say they were definitely worth $20.

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Our Wedding Invitations

Yesterday the North Carolina Senate also voted to pass the anti-LGBT marriage amendment. That means it will now go on the ballot in May 2012 as part of the primaries. Eight months to fight like hell to prevent this amendment, y'all.

However, our wedding plans are well on their way. The fabulous Ellie posted photos of our invitations on her beautiful blog, with which we're absolutely smitten.  We love the rustic touches that are done in a way that's still totally elegant.

I've always had a thing for pretty paper goods, so I knew that I wanted our invitations to be really well-designed and special, and Ellie has definitely gone above and beyond our expectations. It also makes us really happy to be working with someone based right here in the Triangle. We're currently working with her on the day-of stationery and we can't wait to see what else she has up her (very creative) sleeves!

{Also, a special thanks to Ellie for letting me share these photos here!}

Photos: You Go, I Go, We Go
Design: Hello Tenfold

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

On Overcoming

Yesterday, the GOP-led North Carolina House of Representatives quickly pushed through a vote on the proposed constitutional amendment against same-sex marriage. Conveniently, they did this the day before today's gigantic rally (which is totes still happening, btw).

As someone who works for an advocacy organization, it never ceases to amaze me how strongly I still react when my rights and the rights of others are being attacked and debated by legislators (and/or voted on by the general public). Yes, some could say that I should develop a thicker skin. That's fine. However, I'm also human. It's not as though I spend every day the General Assembly is in session curled up in a ball crying in the corner. I often get angry at the hatred, ignorance, bigotry, and privilege that exists in our world. A lot of the time, especially after debates, I feel the need to take showers to wash off all of the horrible things that were said.

Obviously, this debate hit closer to home than some others, especially since our wedding (here in NC) is just five weeks away. I love Kate so incredibly much, and the idea that people find this objectionable enough to actively work to make our lives more challenging makes me absolutely sick.

Aside from that, there are a few other things that made me particularly depressed about yesterday's events (and that kept me up way too late writing this post):

  • If I was this down about these actions, imagine how young LGBT kids who have just come out or are still in the closet must feel.
  • It's pretty sad that we have to fight to keep something we already don't have from becoming even less accessible. Since same-sex marriage is already illegal in North Carolina, it's not as if we're working to gain access to marriage, just to keep this discrimination from becoming even more codified in our state.
  • That, if the amendment passes the Senate (which could be as early as today), the fight is just beginning. This proposed amendment would then go on the ballot for a vote by the general public in May 2012. 

Yet amid all this insanity, there is still reason to be hopeful. Equality NC has increased their Facebook fans by over 17,000 (and counting) since last Friday (!) with the help of Facebook co-founder and NC native Chris Hughes. People from all over the world are sending their love and support.

This speech from Rep. Marcus Brandon (as well as many others from other legislative opponents of the amendment), who is currently the only openly-LGBT member of the General Assembly, is also really fantastic.

And here's the main thing I have to keep reminding myself: these anti-gay legislators are running scared. They're part of a dying breed, a rapidly decreasing number of people who support state-sanctioned discrimination. They are using this amendment as a desperate attempt to drum up support from a base that cares less and less about this issue. People in our state have real problems, like unemployment and budget cuts, and they want to see their legislators focus on this instead of spending upwards of $150,000 to reconvene a special hate session.

Regardless of what happens with this amendment, they will go down as being on the wrong side of history. Even though the road to full equality for all LGBT people (which includes marriage equality) may be long and rocky, I firmly believe that we'll make it there. I believe in my heart of hearts that Kate's and my future children will be genuinely shocked to learn that we weren't always treated the same as everyone else because of our sexual orientation.

And in the meantime? We have to keep our chins up and keep on fighting like our rights depend on it. Because they do.